
Some cats are smart. Some aren’t so smart. Some owners have preferences for their furry purr beasts to be one way or the other. I found, over the years, that I loved being the parent/co-owner of fat, not-too-bright, simple tuxedo cat.
I first met Christine’s kitten, Pobedonostsev – or Po for short – only a few days after she brought him home from the Humane Society in the summer of 2008, a month or two after I’d graduated from the UW, and a month or two before I began my two year stint working in Jordan. At that point, Christine and I were cautious friends – we had dated casually in the fall and spring of 2006-2007 but I had – I hope gracefully – ended the informal relationship when I learned that she was planning to do a study abroad in Chile. My previous relationship had been long-distance for a time and I wasn’t a huge fan of distance, and I knew she had another suitor interested in her anyway – so she and I tried to retain as much of a friendship as we could over Skype during my senior year, her junior year, and when she returned, I hung out with her and her boyfriend from time to time, but of course, there was a bit of distance between us.
A sunny afternoon, she texted me and said she had gotten a kitten. She was subletting only a couple blocks from DoIT, the UW’s central IT group where I worked at the time, so after work, I stopped by, just for a few minutes, to meet the little guy. About 3 months old, he was curiously exploring her little apartment, jumping in and out of a tissue box on the floor, and generally being cute the way kittens are. Christine seemed tired. I didn’t know at the time – she told me years later – but he was apparently not a good nighttime kitten and meowed all night and she wasn’t even sure she wanted to keep him.
Fast forward a little over three years later and suddenly, I’m Po’s new step-dad, dating his mother. By this point, he’d acquired a slightly older brother (by about 9 months), Bert the orange long-haired tabby – smart, sly, and extremely possessive of his new mommy – and Po had become a Beta Cat; subdued and quiet, and shy around new people. I was such a “new person” to him, and I thought at first that he and I would not get along, as he would slink away and hide from me whenever I’d come by to visit.
But then…I discovered the diamond in the shy rough of this now-pudgy, plump housecat. With Bert having claimed Christine as “his mama” and often nipping and batting at Po when he tried pathetically to cuddle his mama, the former only child, poor simple Po was flummoxed. Perhaps because I generate large amounts of body heat or equally likely, because he had no other human option… Po began placing his bulk on me. Gingerly at first, always silently. “I require a lap because I am lonely and need companionship but this doesn’t mean I have to like the fact it is you and yours and not my mama’s.” Of course Christine felt terrible that Po had become a beta cat, and often tried to encourage him to stick up for himself against Bert, and cuddled him whenever she could, but Bert was a little shadow that had glued himself to her. Sometimes if Bert had fallen asleep on one side of her, Po could finally creep in and cuddle up against her other side without the abuse.
One of my favorite early memories of living with Po was probably around 2012 or 2013 or so. He was visiting me at my first house in Madison that I lived in alone at that time. Until that point, both cats had been getting exclusively dry food. We were still post-collegiately frugal with money, dry food was cheap and could be kept in a feeder machine. But she knew wet food was healthier and closer in texture to what a “wild cat” would be eating in terms of prey animals. Now, up until this point, ever since Bert had moved in with him, Po had been… almost silent. No meows, no trills, no caterwauling. He would sit, stare at you watchfully, head cocked with interest, but silently. But now, for the first time – the crack of the can lid. What’s this? His ears tilted forward. The dish was put in front of him. He sniffed it, took a tentative bite. Silently, he snarfed it down as fast as he could. This was incredible. How could he have missed out on this his entire life? A few days later, Christine was out and I was entrusted with the task of serving the cats their new daily can of wet food. I cracked the lid, and stopped when I heard a sound behind me. Po was staring. Leaning forward. “Mmmm….” he said. “What’s that Po? You like wet food?” I asked him. “mmmmmMMM!” emanated from his throat. And again. “MMMMMMMmmmMMM!” and then finally, like a crescendo bursting forth, he put a paw forward, plaintively, staring intently between my face and the can I was holding…”mmmmmMMMMM…MOH! MOH! MOH!” The years of silence had been broken. He’d finally found something worth shouting about. And in the derpiest, least-practiced/melodic sound possible. The phrase “MOH!” or “moh?” became an inside joke between Christine and I for “anything which is highly desired or prized” and “is this thing something that should be highly desired or prized?”
Another habit he developed around then – or at least, that he showed to me – was his curiosity around bathtubs. After I’d shower, he’d lurk around the door, watching me towel off. Then he’d come and sit at the edge of the bathroom. Then finally, one day he worked up the courage to give a tentative…licklicklick at the water stuck to my leg hairs. This became a common morning tradition; he’d hear the shower and charge in, sometimes jumping up on the edge of the bathtub between the cloth ‘show’ liner and the plastic inner one and pace back and forth, waiting for me to emerge so he could vigorously lick water off of my legs. Such a weirdo. When the tub was dry, he’d sometimes toss a hair tie into it, then fling himself in after it and writhe and roll about, chasing the hair tie. I called this “a tub in a tub” (years later, in Panama with his skinny lithe little sister Arriba who enjoyed crouching in, then bursting through a fabric play cylinder for cats, I would refer to this as “a tube in a tube.”)
By the time Christine and I bought our condo and fully integrated our lives in 2019, Po and I were on good terms (after all, I did provide his wet food a few times a week when Christine had to work late) and while he still seemed like he’d rather be with his mama, he treated me to purrs and meows/mohs, and would rub his face on my leg if he wandered past me on the way to his dry food dish (a more food-motivated cat, I’d never met).
The pandemic seemed to break something in his simple little head. His parents were now at home ALL THE TIME… not at work, leaving him with his naughty brother alone. He seemed perplexed and bemused for the first couple weeks, coming around corners as I worked at my new “home office” and looking surprised to see me, like he expected to have the bed in the office to himself.
Then…a leap into my lap. A tentative, gentle paw extended upward to my keyboard. pat….patpatpatpat. Clicky, mechanically-switched full-size keyboard makes a lot of noise when typed on, compared with laptops. Interesting. A loud, rumbling purr emits from a throat. He proceeds to curl up into a ball on my lap for the next three hours, only periodically reaching out to sleepily pat at the keyboard again. He can get used to this. Yes, this will work out very nicely. Let him clear out his daytime schedule from this point forward.
His goofy, weird, but endearing behaviors began to come through. Never much one for playing with toys, he did develop an almost obsession with a simple cotton string on a plastic wand a couple months into the pandemic. Waiting until neither human was around, he’d then pick up the end of it in his mouth and then drag it out the house, emitting loud “MOH! MOH!” MRROWWW!” sounds… all while thrusting and gyrating his hips about. We called the string his Girlfriend.
















